Everyone needs calm and reliability in life and this is especially true for children.
Today you and your family are one step closer to a new you where you feel empowered and on a positive path to growth and well-being. You might have thought transitioning from romantic partners to co-parents was going to resolve all conflict. That the conflicts that led to the separation or divorce would calm down and everyone would focus on what’s best for the kids once not all living under the same roof, but it hasn’t happened yet.
The family is still there, but now you need to find a way to co-parent constructively, without hurting your kids. Things like the meals provided, exchanges, birthday parties, school events, not to mention negotiating afterschool activities, holidays and vacations can turn into a battle that lasts for weeks. It should be easier than this. Maybe the triggers are too raw, old patterns and arguments are still there like they’ve always been, and you just can’t talk it though like two grown adults.
It can get better.
Every parent wants their children to be happy, successful, independent and end up in loving relationships as adults. Divorce is not what creates the main problem or relationship issues with children and families, it is the conflict and disruption after that causes harm and leads to problems. Parents need to learn how to communicate in a way that supports their kid’s growth.
We can work together to create a parenting plan that not only gets you through the storm to the calm, I can also support your family in interpreting a current plan in a way that allows everyone to thrive. When we work together both parents have an opportunity to work through each of your concerns without involving the kids. The benefit is less stressful home environments with collaborative parents, where each can enjoy your time with your kids to the fullest.
I look forward to working with you to achieve your personal goals. Whether individual therapy, family therapy, divorce coaching or Parent Coordination, give me a call today and let’s talk about how we can make things better.